Perfect Date - Ugly Guy?

I had blind date on Saturday - arranged for me by a mutual friend. It was fabulous and we talked for 5 hours and were both very relaxed, open and honest -- the conversation was fantastic.





He is very keen for a relationship at this point but I am unsure if I should date him again as he is not very attractive physically. I wish this was not the case but he had missing teeth and was not very easy on the eyes.





My co-workers think I am an idiot as he sounds like a perfect match but I can't get past his unattractiveness.





He feels very strongly for me and will wait for as long as it takes and there is no doubt that there is a great understanding and similiarities between us.





Am I shallow? I am trying to justify this in my own mind in other ways but this is the primary reason.

Perfect Date - Ugly Guy?
I know, this might be a basic answer you get, but if this guy is good then you shouldn't care about his looks. I understand this is usually an element of liking someone, but this guy sounds good for you. I would give him another chance and see if hes the one. :) I hope I helped.
Reply:yup youre shallow. external beauty does not last a lifetime. internal beauty, however, does.
Reply:It's hard, everyone has a right to date someone they are attracted to but at the same time you should never judge anyone on their looks. You might miss the love of your life if you do. Maybe as you grow closer he will feel self conscious and fix his teeth or you may casually bring it up after awhile. you might never find a man with his qualities again so make sure you can't get passed his looks.
Reply:deff. shallow but see if he is good in bed before you decide anything
Reply:HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA...


im sorry but you were wiiiiiiiiiiiide open with that one.


give the toothless guy a chance, you can learn to love him and he's probably an excellent lover.
Reply:A little but looks are part of the attraction also if you feel nothing physical for him then you should break it off now before it goes to far just be honest with him.
Reply:At first I thought ok thought ok you were pretty shallow until you said " he has missing teeth." Then I thought what the hell is wrong with your friend to set you up with a toothless guy damn what must she think of you. In the end why not just be friends with him only. It's not a rule that you have to date him, be his friend and if he can't accept that then that's his lost not yours. being physically attracted to someone is important just as much as being mentally attracted.
Reply:No you are not shallow but beauty is within try another time with this guy if you could talk for 5hrs with all the good things,with time you will be past the unattractiveness.
Reply:Hello, When my mom let me date already, i will never, never, never date a guy with out some of his teeth. It's just, I don't think I can hold my laughter and I don't want to offend people that way. It will not going to be romantic - my lost. But that's me. In your case, maybe he can fix his teeth if he had a dental insurance before asking anybody anybody out.??? If this is not making you comfortable and you are embarrash, don't date him until he had his tooth fix.
Reply:I don't think you are shallow. When God looks at us I believe he only sees our hearts. You really need to see this guys heart then decide. Not all but with most good looking guys comes arrogance. And again not all but most good looking guys are jerks. You have to decide what is top on your list of a mate. And I do think there is a middle ground. Just don't hurt this guys feelings. I am sure someone out there would find him attractive.
Reply:i wouldn't necessarily call u shallow because honestly people look at looks, it counts for plus minus 30%-50% of the overall attraction.





we human and its difficult to change what we are use to doing. but it y'all intellectual chemistry is there i say he is worth the shot don't u think??





because exterior outlooks can be changed internal is more difficult. once ur relationship grows u can help him without him losing self-confidence and the natural inner being
Reply:it's quite difficult to find a perfect match as Mr Right and we should not also judge the book from its cover but attractiveness also has to be there as it is a vital factor in the physical side of a relationship. great thing is that yu both understand each other so maybe you could kindly advise him to have his missing teeth etc replaced and then see how it goes. I don't think so u are shallow...attractiveness is not a vital part but is as important to have a good relationship...
Reply:wow are you ever shallow. looks don't make a life for you.he may be the best you will ever get. do as your heart tells you
Reply:Given time, he'd probably grown on you even more. You know this. Besides his looks can be fixed. Even if he never rises to your level, he'll be appreciative enough to treat you well and worship you. Your inside (vanity) probably matches his outward undesirability.


HONESTLY, a better measure would be ... how does he SMELL to you? If he looks bad and you do not like his body odor; then you can pass on him and not feel so shallow.
Reply:oh man,this is very hard,perfect date but not so handsome guy...i don't think ur shallow its just that appearance matters here.how do u feel about him?if u can't put pass the unattractiveness,then u should just let him know so he don't think u kind of lead him on.
Reply:Hunny dont listen to what the other tell u they are all full of it imagine wakeing up to somebody 365days a years that u found repulsive could u do that i sure couldint do that , personality and looks both have to come together or u will only be liking one part of him not all of him
Reply:NO You are NOT shallow. he should be glad for the friendship of a fine girl like you. things wrong with the mouth gag me so it could be repulsive to kiss him. If he can't be able to have his teeth worked on, then he is not in any position to expect you or anyone to be in a relationship . or be more than a great friend, as it shows he lacks the basic ability to care for himself, and if you end up marrying him, he may expect that you won't put things like your dental health as a priority. bottom line some very nice people have teeth problems. teeth are hygiene, ugly looks can't be helped . your born like that and if you love someone you won't see the ugly, just the love.


Did you know that bacteria in his mouth could get in you mouth and cause you to have infected gums or cavities.


some missing teeth may be from an accident. so germ factor is not involved.


Also i sense that you feel somewhat pressured to go out with him again. just because you admit that someone is good company for you does not mean you have to actually go


out with him. Just say no
Reply:my pther half wasn't attractive to me at all when we got together...but his personality made up for it 10fold...that's what really matters.



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